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Okie- Centric

I like living in Oklahoma, I really do.  It definitely has a certain charm to it-- the kind that makes a bona fide city girl like me- want to go out and purchase black leather cowgirl boots.

I also think the heartland is beautiful, and in addition, the majority of the people I have encountered have been friendly and kind.  All of the positive things I have ever said about Oklahoma, I have meant with 100% sincerity.

However, I can't help but feel amused... confused sometimes when I witness things that I am simply not accustomed to seeing... I can't help it; I just don't get it.  I am a stranger in a strange land.

The longer I stay here-- the less of an outsider I will become, and the more likely, these odd observances will become commonplace.  So, I thought I would share some of my observances "as an outsider" while I still can.  Before I, myself, start wearing orange Oklahoma collegiate apparel and accessories, with overalls, cruising around Walmart in an electric scooter.


Odd Observance #1-What is with the excessive amount of electric scooters?

I have never in all my life seen so many of them while grocery shopping.  I don't think I ever saw one once in my 8 years living in Hollywood.  Maybe it's the midwest- maybe it's because I live out in the country, maybe it's Oklahoma.  I don't know.  But ever since I moved here, I pretty much expect to see about five on every grocery run. And, to tell you the truth I am a bit afraid of the people on them, because they can be aggressive!  Once at Sam's club I was practically run over twice by little old ladies on them.

Odd Observance #2- What's with all the ugly sandals?

People I meet freely admit that 'the fashion' here, isn't exactly pervasive. That's fine; I'm all about dressing comfortably.  However- one thing I have zero tolerance for are hideous shoes.  This is just my opinion on fashion, as a former fashion designer, but feel free to disagree!  It's one of the first things I noticed when I moved here, ugly sandals everywhere.  I hail from the land of flip flops, not orthopedic velcro; so I just don't get it.  But to each his own!

Odd Observance #3- What's with all the Oklahoma football merchandise?

I feel like I'm bombarded with OU and OSU football memorabilia everywhere I turn.  Even in LA where people love their USC, and Lakers, you only saw sports colors at the sporting event, or maybe on a big game day.  Now that I live here, I see football merchandise virtually everywhere.  (Admittedly, I'm not a sports fan; I didn't grow up that way. When Dad's were taking their kids to a baseball game, my Dad was taking us to a Modern Art Museum. So I just don't get the sports craze at all.)  So you can imagine my surprise when I moved to a state where people are not only fanatical about their football teams, but love to show their college pride, and frequently don collegiate shirts, jackets, hats, bags, and watches to non sporting events, and perhaps the occasional fancy dinner. To my Oklahoma football loving friends: I love you.  I just don't have to love all of your rhinestone-bedazzled-collegiate accessories.

Natural Beauty

I'm currently obsessed with, and inspired by Ginnifer Goodwin's glowing skin, and gorgeous,"no make up" look in ABC's new show "Once Upon A Time".

As every woman knows-- looking like you barely wear any makeup and are a "natural beauty" is one of the trickiest tricks to master! ( I'm still a rookie.)

Her strong, but sweet, Snow White character is also very refreshing.

And alright, I'll admit it, her "Prince Charming" isn't too shabby either!

"The Road Not Taken": What I Learned in 2011

As many of you know, this has been a year of many significant changes in my life: a change in career, a huge change in location, a change in my relationships, not to mention a change in lifestyle.  Some changes were beyond my control, but most if not all, were fully maneuvered by my reins.  And I'm glad I did it too.  It's just what I needed to snap me out of my complacency.  But, I'd be lying if I said the adjustment has been easy-- because it hasn't been.  There have been many tears, and lots of heart-ache this year.  But that's okay.  I purposely chose the "Road Not Taken".  As Robert Frost, so eloquently wrote:

"I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference."

That being said, before I say "so-long" to my year of significant changes, I thought I might share some of the more personal life lessons I learned this year:

• I learned that sometimes being laid-off is a blessing in disguise.

• I learned to trust in and listen to my intuitive inner voice; it's has a very high accuracy rate.

• I learned to be honest with myself, and acknowledge when a relationship has run it's course, even if it hurts.

• I learned that if I don't like something about my life, it's up to me to change it; if I am afraid-- embrace the fear and do it anyway.

• I learned that if I am brand new in town, without any friends, the best thing to do is bravely head into town by myself, and make some new ones.

• I learned that having a sense of humor is crucial; it can get me through anything.

• I learned that this self-described "City girl" can survive out in the country too.

• I learned that true friendships can withstand, many miles apart.

• I learned that the fastest way out of a self-inflicted pity-party is to count my blessings.

• I learned that living in isolation, in the country is the perfect thing for a girl who is easily distracted and could use some self-reflection.

• I learned that I am incredibly lucky to have a family as quirky, yet unconditionally loving and supportive as mine is.

• I learned that volunteering makes me a better person: more grateful, more compassionate and less selfish.

• I learned that living in the country has it's perks: I get to experience the seasons and it's absolutely gorgeous in the spring and fall.

• I learned that if I sleep in a bed with two dogs and a cat every night, it's virtually impossible to be lonely. 

• I learned that if I speak from my heart, I will attract meaningful friendships with like-minded individuals who do the same.

• I learned that sometimes the best therapy is to hop on a horse and go for a ride.

• I learned to appreciate the phrase: "get back on the saddle again". Now that I have literally fallen off my horse, and had to get back on again, the phrase has a whole new meaning.

• I learned that life really is an adventure: it can be as boring or as exciting as I allow it to be.

• I learned that I can be wealthy and rich in ways that have absolutely nothing to do with money.

• I learned that if I look for the bad in things, I will surely find it.  But if I seek out the good- I will not only find it, but I will be amazed and humbled by the abundance of it. 

Internet Dating 101: Tips from a Professional Dater

I avoid giving advice or tips on things I know nothing about.
For example: I am never going to publish a post on how to fix a leaky faucet, or how to cook up a juicy steak. Because I haven't a clue how to do either of those.

But, as embarrassing as it is to admit, I do know a thing or two about internet dating.  Maybe it's my adventurous spirit?  Or, maybe it's because I'm willing to search "high" and "low" for Mr. Right?  At any rate, when it comes to internet dating, I am unfortunately, an expert.  Here are a few dating tips I'd like to share, that I hope will bring you dating success--as opposed to dating tragedies.

Tip #1) A picture is worth a thousand words:

Credit: Roy Lichtenstein

Once you've selected your dating website, be absolutely sure to post pictures of yourself, that are not only recent, but actually look like you!   This is common sense, but for some reason, is not as common as it should be.  Any pictures that imply that you look significantly different---other than how you really look in the full light of day, is false advertising.  Once your date actually meets you, they are more than likely, going to be disappointed, and annoyed.  Which means, the date is inevitably going to be awkward, and suffice it to say---it won't end well.  So, if you are going to put yourself out there-- do it right!  Ask a trusted friend to take your photo, they won't mind.  Opt for flattering, but natural light, wear an outfit that elicits compliments every time you wear it, think happy thoughts, and give the camera your brightest and most sincere smile!  This will win you genuine dates- with people who like you for YOU. (Not that pixelated, high contrast, high angle, cropped at the neck, from 10 years ago you.)

Tip #2)  Leave the past, in the past:

Credit: Roy Lichtenstein

Do not under any circumstances talk (at length) about your recent break up or your ex.  I can't think of a more direct way to turn what should have been a pleasant night out, getting to know someone into an awkward, therapy session.  As tempting or as harmless as it may seem, talking about your recent heart-ache or break up isn't going to "bond" you to your date.  What it will do is bring the "past" to the "present", when the "present" should be an exciting first date, getting to know someone new, and ideally, the fresh start to something great.  Yes, you should be getting to know your date, but there are a million other things to talk about other than how cute your ex looked when he/she smiled, and how you've been listening to "The Cure" a lot lately, since you've been nursing a broken heart.

Repeat after me: "my date is not my therapist".

Tip # 3) Mind your Manners:

Credit: Roy Lichtenstein

I hate to sound like Emily Post, but based on my experiences in the dating field, it seems we all could use a little brushing up on our dating etiquette. For anyone who is doubtful that "manners matter", continue reading:

First of all, your date is taking mental notes; noticing all the little things you do or don't do-- to be analyzed and interpreted in detail later.  **True confessions: on a really bad date I've made trips to the ladies room to call my BF and give her a play by play on just how bad it's been. You don't want to play any part of a date-horror-story, especially if you live in a small town. Yikes!

Secondly, on a first date-- there are so many uncontrollable variables such as: will there be chemistry? The one thing you can control is how you treat your date.  So, even if he/she doesn't turn out to be the woman or man of your dreams, you can still be courteous, and find yourself having a pleasant night, regardless.

A brief refresher course:

A- I can't believe I have to say this, it's so rudimentary, but it doesn't always happen and it should. Gentleman, always open doors for your date.  Ladies, be gracious and always say "thank you".

Also girls, when your date opens the car door to let you in first, (if his car doesn't automatically unlock on his side) lean over right away and unlock his side too. He'll be impressed!

B- Once the check arrives, don't let it sit there!  Guys, be the gentleman and grab it and be sure to take care of it right away, especially on a first date.  If you don't, you will forever be known as the cheapskate, who probably shouldn't be asking girls out in the first place.  And you can (literally) kiss any hopes of getting a romantic kiss good-night, good-bye!

Credit: Roy Lichtenstein

C- Be nice to the servers, bartenders or anyone else who waits on you.  Also, pay close attention to how your date treats others when they think no one is watching. This is a true sign of how they will treat you in the future.  If my date is dismissive, or rude to a server who is otherwise doing their best, I not only find it unattractive, but like many---take it as a sign, that that is how they are going to treat me later.

D- This courteous tip is for the gentleman, and kind of a dying gesture.  Want to go the extra mile and be a real gentleman?  It's easy! While walking on the side-walk with your date, make sure that she is on the inside of the side walk; farthest from the curb.  You'll earn bonus points, and if the date isn't going so well- this just might help you redeem yourself.  This chivalrous tradition hails back to a time when horse-drawn carriages would inadvertently splash mud on ladies' expensive dresses, to prevent this gentleman walked closest to the street to protect the women they were with. Thoughtful and romantic!

These manners may seem trivial, but I am telling you: you can tell a lot about a person by how courteous they are to you now.  If your date can't bother to be polite on the first date, what kind of a person are they going to be once you are in a relationship, and you hit a rough patch? It won't be pretty.

Tip # 4 Safety First:

Credit: Roy Lichtenstein

It's a crazy world out there and you just never know if your date is who they say they are.  In order to avoid being a statistic, I've employed the following dating-safety procedures before going out; I highly recommend this tips to everyone --especially if you are going out with someone for the very first time.
1- Meet in a public place (the more people, the better)
2- Drive separately and meet them there.

3- Let a friend or room-mate know where you are going and who you are going with; write down your date's full name, and phone number on a post-it before going out for the evening.
4- Since I moved to a new town, where everything was new and unfamiliar, I started taking extra precautions.  First, I take a picture of my date (from the dating website of course) with my Iphone.  Next, I add his pic to his contact info on my phone.  Lastly, I forward all my date's contact info to someone else (a room-mate is a good idea).  For me, it's my overly protective brother, who has requested the info in the first place.  Like me, he would rather I be a little neurotic, then a lot dead.

Tip # 5 Talk on the phone before your first date:

All I know is, talking to your potential date BEFORE you agree to go out, accomplishes much more than you would think.  If it goes well, it gives you motivation and encouragement to proceed forward. If it does NOT go well, if gives you a valid reason to not go forward and which would be a waste of each others' time.

Do you like the sound of their voice?  Would you mind hearing it for the next 20 plus years of your life? (These are real things to consider!) Are you hitting it off?  Are they making you laugh?   If so--then wonderful!  Now you are off to a really great start, and should feel optimistic and encouraged about your first date!

On the flip side, if you don't like the sound of their voice-- agreeing to a date is probably not a good idea; a person can't help the sound of their voice and it is not going to magically change into something pleasing later.  Sometimes it's not their voice, but the way they talk that is a major turn off.  If so, I highly suggest parting ways politely now.  Save yourself the trouble and time of a doomed date if you can tell within five minutes of talking to them, that the chemistry isn't right. Thank you technology!

These are all the tips I have to share for now!  I hope my learning experiences will be beneficial to others.  Meanwhile, I highly recommend to anyone who is considering braving the internet dating world-- to go for it!  Sure, there are the occasional dating tragedies, but they make great comedy stories later!  Plus--there is always the possibility that you might meet someone wonderful- and that possibility makes the risk worthwhile.

 Roy Lichtenstein

Confessions of a Cheetah-holic: PART TWO

Tips on how to spot, (if you'll pardon the expression), fashionable leopard print...and how to avoid leopard print disasters.

Leopard print is frequently touted in fashion magazines- as THE latest and hottest fashion trend.  If you ever wondered why, it's because it is beloved by: designers, stylists, celebs and fashionistas alike. We keep buying it! Therefore, it never really "goes out of style".  And it's a good thing too, otherwise my wardrobe would be in serious trouble!

So, for the uninitiated, how does one go about rocking the leopard print in a chic, fashionable way?


1- The more realistic looking the print- the better!
Regardless of the fabrication, be it chiffon, faux fur, or silk--the more authentic looking the print is-- the more luxurious and chic your ensemble will be.

Panthera pardus (photo credit: animaldiscovery.com)

2-Watch out for tacky leopard print! If a leopard print is a vibrant color intentionally- such as hot pink- it can look chic on the right person with the right outfit. But if you would prefer a classier, timeless look opt for the natural-colored versions: grey, beige, tan or buff. If it is bright yellow, or bright orange- put it down, and walk away.

The natural coloring, painterly brush-strokes and size of spots make this a flattering leopard print choice.

3-Keep an eye on the size! Generally speaking, smaller prints are universally flattering. While larger prints tend to make everyone look, well, larger. The same rule applies to leopard prints.

4-Less is more! For some, all-over leopard print can be a bit intimidating, or just a little too much.  In that case- opt for accessories!  If that floor-length gown looks great on the hanger, but less-than-awesome on you--go for the clutch, shoes, or belt!  You will still get to join the fun, and you will get more use out of it too.

Christian Louboutin

When in doubt, turn to designers who know leopard print and regularly show-case it in their collections: Roberto Cavalli, L.A.M.B., Prada, and Betsey Johnson --just to name a few.

 Last but not least, take fashion cues from celebs who always look flawless, and frequently rock leopard print from their wardrobe-- such as Dita Von Teese and Gwen Stefani.

Dita Von Teese

Gwen Stefani wearing L.A.M.B.

I Hope you are inspired, and if you haven't tried leopard print before-- I heartily encourage you too!  Leopard print is a classic and it knows no age: from babies to grandmas-- it looks fabulous on everyone!

What's New Pussycat? Confessions of a Cheetah-holic PART ONE

No, not cheater. Cheetah! As in, the print!

Ok, true confession time here.  I knew I had a weakness for leopard print, but after raiding my closet and finding all this to photograph:

I thought to myself, "I might have a problem..."

Or... Maybe I don't?
Some might be surprised by my extreme fondness for this pattern, and I'd like to attribute that to the fact that I wear it regularly, but I wear it sparingly.

I thought maybe I'd begun my predilection for leopard print after I discovered my beloved Bettie Page.  But, as it turns out, I was into it before then.  I found this little gem:

It's me at 19-- donning my finest 90s clubwear.  Funny thing is, the outfit actually looks okay.  It's my haircut that's less than awesome.

Since I have years of experience under my leopard-printed-belt, I thought I'd share tips on how to wear it- and come across as fashionable and chic, as opposed to trashy and scary.

First off- an abridged history on the legendary leopard print:
Historically, in ancient times, royalty donned leopard real leopard fur capes, coats, sashes and crowns.  This was a display of heirarchy, status and wealth.

Remember Eddie Murphy's Prince Akeem from "Coming to America?"  Ha ha!
He wore leopard fur for the same reason; status and wealth.
Ahem. Back to the fashion-relevant:
So, World War II has just ended and world- renowned Parisian designer, Christian Dior debuts a collection featuring leopard print in chiffon (not fur). Women, tired of fabric rations from the war, embraced the look- a sign of an official return to glamorous fashion.  Can you blame them?

Leopard print and Hollywood- a timeless, glamorous love affair:
In the 1930s and 1940s, Hollywood's most prominent movie costume-designer "Adrian" began to include leopard print & fur in his designs for his most glamorous stars: Greta Garbo, Katherine Hepburn and Joan Crawford among them. What Hollywood did, American women did, the love-of-leopard-print-seed had been planted.

Rita Hayworth

In the 1940s and 1950s, Hollywood's celebrated costume designer Edith Head continued the Hollywood tradition of dressing her stars in sophistication and style through the use of leopard print, including: Barbara Stanwyck, Audrey Hepburn and Elizabeth Taylor.

Audrey Hepburn

Elizabeth Taylor

The 1960s saw a huge re-surgence in leopard print popularity. You couldn't throw a shiny rock with out hitting a starlet wearing leopard print.  Just a few Hollywood stars that helped popularize the trend were:  Jayne Mansfield, Brigitte Bardot, Anne Margaret, and Catherine Deneuve.

Jayne Mansfield

Brigitte Bardot

Catherine Deneuve

Anne Margret

So the moral of this story is this- if you find a vague correlation between Retro Hollywood Glamour and Leopard Print, there is a reason; leopard print has been employed by Hollywood Fashion luminaries since the phrase "movie star" was practically invented, so it's no wonder!

I'm gonna end my history rant on a favorite, dear to my heart.
In the 1950s there was a subversive Pin Up Queen who made leopard print both sexy and scandalous. Have you ever heard her?  Her name was miss Bettie Page.

Among fetish shoes, seamed stockings and Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie, Miss Page was rather fond of donning the famed leopard print.  And she wore it well.  Old Hollywood aficionados, (like myself), as well as Rockabilly girls have been following suit ever since.

***Stay tuned for PART TWO- where I share fashion tips on how to wear leopard print that eschews "Ahhs" because you look so darn fabulous, versus "Eek!" (Because you look more like Peg Bundy.)